A Playful Guide to Ejaculation Control!

Take Charge in the Bedroom: How to control your ejaculation?

Take Charge in the Bedroom

Sexual well-being is important in relationships. We created the Monthly Sex Box for Couples, recognizing that a satisfying and fulfilling sexual relationship can foster closeness, trust, and intimacy, strengthening the overall bond. One of the challenges in their sex lives is controlling ejaculation. This can lead to frustration, disappointment, and tension within the relationship.

Exploring online married kinky games can add excitement to your sex experience. However, it's crucial to recognize that ejaculation control remains an essential aspect of sexual health and satisfaction. Premature ejaculation, or the inability to control when ejaculation occurs, can significantly impact self-confidence and intimate moments. While enjoying playful activities, it's essential to address this issue. Dealing with it can lead to improved sexual performance, increased intimacy with your partner, and a more satisfying sex life. We are here to provide various techniques, tips, and strategies that can help individuals master the art of ejaculation. This will ensure a well-rounded and fulfilling sexual journey.

1. The start-stop technique

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Start-stop technique, follow these steps:

  1. Start with sexual stimulation (by masturbation or with a partner). 

  2. As you reach climax moment, take deep breaths, it will help you to gain more control over your body in time.

  3. Pay attention to your body sensations. As you approach the point of ejaculation, stop all stimulation.

  4. Wait for the urge to ejaculate to pass (usually around 30 seconds).

  5. Could you repeat the stimulus and the process as needed?

The start-stop technique can help you become more aware of your body's sensations and improve your ability to control your ejaculation over time. Some possible challenges may include maintaining arousal after stopping and resuming stimulation and coordinating with a partner during sexual activity.

2. The squeeze technique

The squeeze technique

The squeeze technique is another behavioral method to control ejaculation. It involves applying gentle pressure to the tip of the penis just before the point of ejaculation. It holds the pressure until the urge to ejaculate passes, then continues sexual activity.

To perform the squeeze technique, follow these steps:

  1. Initiate sexual stimulation (via masturbation or with a partner).

  2. Pay attention to your body sensations. As you approach the point of ejaculation, stop all stimulation.

  3. Using your thumb and forefinger, apply gentle pressure to the tip of the penis, where the head meets the shaft.

  4. Hold the pressure for a few seconds or until the urge to ejaculate passes.

  5. Could you repeat the stimulus and the process as needed?

The squeeze technique can help men gain more control over ejaculation by interrupting the process. This will allow them to be more aware of the sensations that lead to an orgasm. Some potential challenges may include applying the correct pressure, maintaining arousal, and coordinating with a partner during sexual activity.

Practical approaches to lasting longer

1. Use thicker condoms

thicker condoms

One simple and practical approach to improving ejaculation control is to use thicker condoms. Thicker condoms reduce sensitivity during sexual activity, allowing for a longer-lasting experience before ejaculation.

There are different brands and types of condoms on the market, including ones specifically designed to delay ejaculation. These condoms often include a thicker material and may also contain a mild anesthetic to reduce sensitivity further. It's essential to try different condom types to find the one that works best for you and your partner.

2. Sprays and creams to reduce sensitivity

Desensitizing sprays and creams can also help delay ejaculation by reducing penile sensitivity. These products usually contain a mild anesthetic, such as lidocaine or benzocaine, that can be applied to the penis before sexual activity.

To use a desensitizing spray or cream effectively, follow these steps:

  1. Apply the product to the penis head and its body 10 to 15 minutes before sexual activity. This allows time for the anesthetic to take effect and prevents the transfer of the product to the partner.

  2. Wipe off any excess product before sexual activity to avoid putting your partner to sleep.

  3. Try different products and different amounts to find the right balance between reduced sensitivity and maintaining pleasure.

Some people may experience allergic reactions or skin irritation from desensitizing sprays and creams. If you experience any side effects, discontinue use and consult a healthcare professional.

Open communication with your partner

Open communication with your partner

Discussing ejaculation control with your partner is essential to success with the techniques and strategies described. Open and honest communication can help both partners understand the challenges and goals associated with improving ejaculation control. This will enable them to work together to achieve a more satisfying sexual experience.

To have effective conversations about ejaculation control:

  1. Choose a comfortable, non-sexual environment for the discussion.

  2. Be honest and open about your experiences, challenges, and goals.

  3. You can encourage your partner to share his thoughts and feelings on the matter with you.

  4. Discuss possible solutions and strategies to work together.

  5. Agree on a plan of action and support each other throughout the process.

Tips for practicing and applying techniques

  • Routine: Developing a routine and patience for improving emission control takes time and practice. Developing a routine for practicing techniques such as stop-start or pressing methods can increase their effectiveness over time. Remember to be patient with yourself and your progress.

  • Work with your partner: Open communication and cooperation can significantly improve emission control. Implement techniques, discuss challenges, and celebrate successes together.

  • Adjust strategies as needed: Everyone's experience with emissions control is unique. Be open to adjusting techniques or strategies to find your most effective approach.

Mindfulness techniques

Mindfulness is being present and aware of your thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations. By training your brain by focusing on the present moment, you can gain better control over your ejaculation reflex. Here are some mindfulness techniques to try during sex.

Slow down as you approach the orgasm.

slow orgasm

When you notice you are about to orgasm, slow down your movements or stop altogether. This will decrease your arousal, making it easier to regain control. You can then gradually return to sexual activity, paying attention to your arousal levels and adjusting your pace accordingly.

Breathing exercises

Breathing exercises

Relaxation, reduced stress, and better control over your ejaculation reflex can be achieved through deep breathing exercises. Here are some techniques for deep breathing during sex. Focusing on your breathing and taking slow, deep breaths can help you maintain a calmer mood and delay ejaculation.

Diaphragmatic breathing

Diaphragmatic breathing

Diaphragmatic or belly breathing involves inhaling deeply through the nose and allowing your diaphragm to expand fully. This type of breathing activates your diaphragm, the muscle that separates the chest cavity from the abdominal cavity, helping you relax and keep your arousal under control.

To practice diaphragmatic breathing during sex, follow these steps:

  1. Inhale deeply through your nose, allowing your diaphragm to expand and your belly to rise.

  2. Please hold your breath for a few seconds, if you don't mind.

  3. Exhale slowly and entirely through your mouth, allowing your diaphragm to contract and your belly to drop.

  4. Repeat this process throughout sexual activity, maintaining a slow and steady pace.

The four-seven-eight breathing technique

The four-seven-eight breathing technique is another deep breathing exercise that controls ejaculation. This technique involves inhaling for four counts, holding the breath for seven counts, and exhaling for eight counts.

To practice the 4-7-8 breathing technique during sex, follow these steps:

  1. Inhale deeply through the nose for four counts.

  2. Hold your breath for seven counts.

  3. Exhale slowly and thoroughly through the mouth for eight counts.

  4. Repeat this process several times during sexual activity, maintaining a slow and steady pace.

Kegel exercises

Kegel exercises for men, also known as pelvic floor exercises, can help you gain better control over your Orgazm ejaculation reflex by strengthening the muscles. These muscles, known as pelvic floor muscles, play a crucial role in sexual function and can be trained to improve ejaculation control.

How to do Kegel exercises

To perform Kegel exercises, follow these steps:

  1. Identify your pelvic floor muscles by stopping urine flow in the middle or by tightening the muscles that prevent gas passing. These are the muscles you will focus on during Kegel exercises.

  2. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles for 3 to 5 seconds, then relax them simultaneously.

  3. Repeat this process 10 to 15 times per session, aiming for three daily sessions.

To make Kegel exercises a regular part of your daily routine, try incorporating them into your daily activities. You can perform Kegel exercises while sitting at your desk, watching TV, or lying in bed. The key is to find a comfortable position and practice consistently.

Understanding sex nature

How to do Kegel exercises

Relationships are built on passion, closeness, excitement, enjoyable sex, attention, emotion, and power. In places where there is frustration and anxiety, we encounter problems with sexuality. Therefore, it is essential not to enter sexual act hastily. We must go to bed when we desire to experience, be excited, give, and receive. By pushing a sexual act to reach orgasm or to bring your partner to orgasm, you lose the point and create tension. Instead, increase the amount of time you spend intimately. Instead of counting the amount of penetration until ejaculation, you should arrive with a willingness to explore and experience.

This readiness, the understanding of the true nature of intercourse, requires pausing for a moment and internalizing the fact that the sexual act is created for the couple. Therefore, the feeling in an intimate moment differs from any other feeling or contact we know and occurs with others around us. This is a unique, exciting, passionate moment, a moment that is a whole world beyond the sexual act embodied in it. The touch we give and receive back, the hormones that flood us, are moments we can and should stop and enjoy. Even if one of the spouses did not reach the climax - all is well! We enjoy each other's company and feel our intimate moment in all its layers, and that matters. When you know how to enjoy these moments and understand that not every sexual encounter must end in an orgasm, you will be freed, your pleasure will increase, and you will be able to enjoy the whole experience fully.

Self-awareness is powerful

The process of controlling ejaculation begins with self-awareness. To achieve this, one must first understand one's body and its reactions to sexual stimulation. Masturbation is a great way to explore the body in private and identify the point of no return - the point where you lose control and ejaculation becomes inevitable. At this point, you must learn to stop and regain control.

During masturbation, touch your body and discover the areas that give you the most pleasure. This self-exploration process can last several weeks or even months because each person's journey is unique. Be patient with yourself, and remember that the goal is to gain a better understanding of your body and its reactions, not just to reach an orgasm.

Once you've identified your point of no return, you can move on to the next step: incorporating this new self-awareness into your sexual encounters with your partner. To maintain control during intercourse, open communication, trust, and a willingness to try different techniques are required.

What movie do you watch while masturbating?

The movie type you see while masturbating can significantly affect the speed of your pleasure to reach orgasm with your loved one; porn offers a wide variety of pleasures, some of them also acts that we would not do with your woman, such as violence and humiliation. Look for pleasant movies that excite you rather than those that force rapid stimulation.

Control over venting and communication with your partner


Gaining control over a couple's outlet requires both partners to be actively involved and committed to the goal. Open communication and trust are essential on this journey, as both parties must feel comfortable discussing their needs, wants, and boundaries.

You can control sexual arousal by lying on the back while the woman is on top of you. You can ask your partner to pause for a moment when you reach your point of no return. You may need to stop a few moments earlier than you did when practicing alone during sex since your arousal levels are likely to be higher during sex than during masturbation.

By repeating this process over multiple sexual encounters, you will gradually develop a greater sense of control over your climax. As you become more confident in your control ability, you and your partner can try different positions and techniques. This will enhance your sexual experiences further.

Improving the sexual experience

In addition to controlling the outlet and improving communication with your partner, several other strategies can improve your sexual experience. Incorporating herbal supplements, essential oils, and certain foods and beverages into your daily routine can positively impact your sexual function and performance.

Herbal supplements such as Ashwagandha, Ginkgo biloba, and Tribulus terrestris have been used for centuries to improve sexual health and performance. These natural remedies can reduce stress, improve blood flow, and increase testosterone levels. This can contribute to better ejaculation control and satisfying orgasm.

Essential oils, such as Lavender, Ylang-Ylang, and Sandalwood, can also improve sexual function and performance. These oils reduce anxiety and stress, improve libido, and enhance overall sexual function.

Diet can play a significant role in sexual function and performance. Foods and drinks like watermelon, dark chocolate, and green tea contain beneficial compounds that improve blood flow. This leads to longer erections and better ejaculation control.

Psychological and marital factors contributing to difficulty controlling emissions should also be addressed. Issues such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and unresolved relationship conflicts can affect a person's ability to maintain control during intercourse. Seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling, can be a valuable step in addressing these underlying issues and improving overall sexual well-being.

The journey to mastery

Mastery the journey

The journey towards controlling emissions and improving sexual experience is a lifelong process that requires patience, perseverance, and continuous learning. As you progress along this path, it is essential to celebrate your achievements and accept your failures as opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

In conclusion, discovering the secrets to controlling ejaculation requires a holistic approach that includes self-awareness, open communication, and a willingness to explore and try new techniques and strategies. By following the guidelines detailed in this comprehensive guide, you can improve your sexual well-being, deepen your connection with your partner, and ultimately experience greater satisfaction and fulfillment in your intimate life.

Itzik Barlev

Itzik Barlev

Itzik Barlev, the founder and owner of Mioshy, has extensive experience developing relationship games, psychology, personal development, and couple empowerment.